Do you matter in the lives of others? You Matter...

Do you matter in the lives of others? 

Photographer Paul Cockrell has made a difference in mine...

Anyone familiar with my events knows that I honor and appreciate art and artists. You will always find art, wine, cameos, pearls, sailing, water, boating, spas, etc... in everything that I do... The things that speak to my soul... What do I say? "If it doesn't make me happy or feed my soul, I am not doing it anymore!" Art speaks to my soul and evokes an emotional response. I love to share that with others and my design clients know that I introduce original art into each project... either as a purchase or a gift.

Art has played a major role in my life and I don't think that the artist always knows the impact that they create with their work.... All the pieces fell into place when I created and planned my last Energy Summit and had just 3 weeks to pull it together. One piece was that to my surprise, I was invited to hold it in Placerville (my home town that I had only recently visited for the first time in almost 20 years) and I had just started following an amazing photographer that happened to live in Placerville: Paul Cockrell . When I asked him to meet my group, he graciously agreed. 

Little did he know why that mattered so much to me.

How can two people see a small town in such divergent ways and how do they finally come together as one? 

The town that I only pictured in my minds eye in black and white for more than 15 years... Has been brought to life and infused with color... It's charm and character that had been lost in my heart has been pulled forth with the obvious love and care seen through the photographer's lens. Paul has the amazing ability to make cold inanimate objects feel warm and inviting... Not just buildings, but metal and stone. He has gifted me with a shift of how I see my childhood town and enabled me to recall good memories that had long been put away... A trigger of color and warmth where there was none.

The big house on the hill looked pretty from the outside, but the neighbors knew. People in the community saw my family one way, when the reality was askew. We moved to Placerville when I was 6 and I left when I was 19. Thirteen years of hell. You never know what goes on behind closed doors. Once I pulled away, it was physically impossible to go back. I would start to have panic attacks as soon as I would start the ascent up the foothills... Many miles away...  That was my reality and I just stayed away, blocking it from my thoughts.

A Facebook page and reconnecting with some wonderful souls from high school made me take another look. Opened my eyes and mind to the possibilities of even thinking about that town again, the time spent and experiences had...

More tools to shift my paradigm from one extreme to right of center... Would be the art that Paul unknowingly offers...

Bringing back the wondrous memories of a child growing up in a small town... 

Good friends, slumber parties... long bus rides and time to chat...

Sitting with anticipation on the curb near the Bell Tower... eating warm peanuts, watching down the street, enjoying the parade and keeping an eye out for the horses pulling the wagon trains... Flashy saloon girl costumes with stockings and heals... carts with goodies for sale... and the county fair that would follow the parade...

Exploring for hours the fields, meadows and forests... Large boulders partially buried in the ground,

worn out places in the rocks where the Indians had ground egg corns... Surrounded by majestic oak
trees that spurred on the imagination of a child and the life of the women grinding food for their families... the children that played in the creeks, valleys and streams...

Summers spent rafting down the American River, wading in looking for tadpoles, panning for gold...


Chasing cows that had gotten out, horses that needed a saddle, baby goats that needed to be bottle fed... or gathering the eggs that the chickens had laid. The various babies that lived in a play pen and needed their noses wiped and bellies full. Bunnies that multiplied... lessons learned... Animals of all sorts passed through and needed care.

The higher mountains with the smell of pine. The feel and smell of the damp forest floor and the crunch under foot... The hidden swimming holes and ponds for fishing...

Climbing trees... So many trees...

The hours, days and years of exploring unattended and the beauty that was hidden away in my heart.

Paul Cockrell is following his passion. An engineer by trade. His art speaks to his sole and it shows in his work... It spoke to my soul. Thank you to Paul and check out more of his spectacular work. I am a fan. I am a Big Fan and I hope that you will be too.

You can find his work in person at Gold Country Artists Gallery on Main Street in Placerville. 

You do matter. Just like Paul, who never knew the impact that his photography had on me... I am POSITIVE that you too move through the lives of others... touching, impacting and influencing those around you. What are you gifts? I ask my consulting clients to sit and make a daily gratitude journal. Not your ordinary gratitude journal... But, start paying attention to your day. Start noting the things that you do throughout your day that you do to be of value. What makes you special? What makes you... You? I think that you will be surprised and that you will begin to see yourself differently.

You Matter! I promise that you are making a difference in the world and touching others more than you could ever imagine. 

I honor You. I appreciate You. You Matter!

Go out and tell someone else today that they matter and share why they matter to you. The biggest gifts in my life have been from strangers. That is changing and evolving now. But, it has made a huge difference in my life. You can make that difference in the life of someone too! Do it big and let someone other than those in your inner circle know that they matter... and why. That is a precious gift that you can give.

I invite you to come back and share your experience... or go onto my facebook page ( don't forget to like it while you are there) and share in the post thread... Your story too, can change someone's day today.

With Gratitude,

Kimberly Reyes

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Confessions of a recovering ME into a We.....Social Media

Hopefully, this series is an eye opener. It is delivered from a place of love. I too was a ME for years... Until I learned to be a WE. It's been a Journey.... 

Life is More Beautiful as a WE.

When we know better... We can do better....

Kimberly Reyes Lifestyle by Design is ALL about making more meaningful connections Online and Offlline. You can shift any paradigm if you are able to see and want to change! ANY!!!

ONLINE

Facebook... Linkedin... Yelp... Klout... Google+... Pinterest... and.... MORE!!!

What you do online affects the way that people see and connect with you. 

Many people have no idea how they appear online... 

Are you a ME... ME... ME online? Do you take your ME message and post it on your page and every other group page that you can find to post on... over and over?

Etiquette and and eye opener: Not Good... You are running into the same people in many groups. You are seen as a ME and it is not serving you. 

Your message is watered down and people get desensitized. 

Truth is that people touch base because you either have a message, thematic posts (beautiful images, inspirational quotes, great articles) OR they are following you personally. If you are like me, people follow my story and personal journey. There is a lot of me and I involved in telling that story.  But, there are ways to involve others and acknowledge the people that influence you... and your journey. 

It is possible to turn a ME page into a WE space. 

1. Be strategic with your business posts... don't post all at one time... post at different times of day (particularly if it is exactly the same).
2. Post things that ask others to respond, reply or share. OR ALL 3!
3. Edify! Thank people publicly. You may want to ask first. Not everyone wants their name used. However, it is a common business networking practice to thank, acknowledge and edify the person that has given you their time and attention. You are not bragging, boasting or name dropping when you post about a wonderful encounter you have had... You are honoring the person that has gifted you with their time.
4. Acknowledge who the source is when you share a pic or post. Many people spend A LOT of time finding sources and post worthy material. It is encouraged to share. Be gracious and share when you know who it is from. 

Are you positive or are you an Eeyore online? 

How are you building your following? Do you end up having a page of bitchers and moaners? 

OR

Do you send out and receive Positive energy and build followers that are cheerleaders for you and your brand?

FACEBOOK EMOTIONS ARE CONTAGIOUS: Feelings shared on Facebook – via negative or positive posts or status updates – are contagious among online friends, according to a new University of California study. The good news is that according to the research, positive Facebook posts are more influential than negative ones, spreading the cheer among others. Thank you Illythia Lichau for sharing :-)

When we know better... We can do better....

Let's all do our BEST! It's not fun to be a Lone Wolf! It's exhausting and You're not as Productive  as you can be! If you want to learn more, I talk about going from ME to WE in this popular teleseminar! March SOLD OUT!

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Confessions of a recovering ME into a We.....Master Manifestor

When I talk about being a WE instead of a ME... It's a Lifestyle and Mindset. It is woven through out your life and encompasses how you move through the world. It really should be part of who you are and not a superficial action. Manifesting is fueled by this way of thinking, living and interaction.

Manifesting is all about energy:  thoughts, actions, intentions, balance and more - all flowing together.

Who Is Interested in Learning More? I have been asked to do another workshop on manifesting... or a series of 1 Day workshops. Truly learning to shift your paradigms and manifest your destiny. Yes. I do it differently. Yes. I teach it differently. Yes. That is why people keep asking me to teach it. I am a Master Manifestor with years of proven success. Just like everything else I teach.... There are building blocks - simple tools and techniques that you can implement into your life. I break it down, make it manageable and easy to learn. I don't present this huge mystic concept. It is simplified for success....

Once you make manifesting a part of your life it works on it's own. Have you ever heard the phrase, "Careful what you wish for?" I know that my thoughts and words affect the outcomes in my life. I am mindful of what I say and think. There are times that I have put things in motion that feels like a freight train moving forward and that I have to be able to truly show up to be able to handle it... That train is moving ahead with or without me. I have made it so. You can make it So as well! What ever your heart desires... When you set your intentions into motion, big things will happen. Will you be able to truly show up and receive what you have asked for? That is part of the cycle. Make it happen and then follow through.

As long as you are living a balanced life and you're energy is flowing... manifesting flows through your life effortlessly... If you are in crisis... it can still work for you... it just takes more energy and effort on your part to get it flowing....

If something is in my conscious mind - it will manifest into my life in one way or another. I don't try to control it... I just acknowledge it when it appears and I am grateful. Those around me don't question it anymore. Sometimes they say it's freaky, sometimes they think it's cool. BUT, it is evident and consistent.

FOR EXAMPLE:

In my design business I have a Yelp page. I have had it up for about... 4 years or more... I have never had one call for work as a referral from Yelp. It was not my intention. I just filled it out for a landing page and to cover all of my bases online.

One day after working with a client, I identified the need for her to have more reviews on her yelp page so that she could get more calls and clients. That is where a good number of her leads were coming from. We needed to up the anti... so to speak. I went online to all of my social media sites and asked people to leave her positive feedback on her Yelp page so that she could get more business. I never thought about myself and I never asked for anything for myself. It was not in my conscious at all... I do not operate that way.

Within 24 hours I had 3 solid Yelp calls, leads and appointments. 2 paid cash for my consultations. One was to bid on a large commercial project...

It get's better. The first client was lovely. Paid me and told me that I was worth every penny. Who doesn't want clients like that?

I was consulting on a remodel that the client was going to flip. She continued to ask me to consult on her personal home. "What other types of services do you offer? She started to explain how she had just had plans created by an architect and that she didn't feel comfortable with the design and she wasn't sure what to do.... FUNNY... I had just told my business coach Blaze Lazarony

 the week before that I had this service that I offered to clients that I wanted to start promoting. I do it all of the time, but have never advertised that I offer it: I take plans that have been created by an architect and I critique and correct the design. Very often architects are great at 2D drawings but the designs are not livable once built.  I can see the design on paper and see it spatially 3D in my head. I have the ability to describe that to my client. Walk them through the space and tell them what needs to be fixed... Play devil's advocate and then the architect can fix it on their end. This can save clients tens of thousands of dollars. It is fixed before the building starts. No mistakes, no change orders, reworks, lost time additional expenses. It's a life saver for many and I have kept a ton of homeowners from having a remodel that looks like what I call a Frankenstein house. You know them. The houses you walk into and say, "wow, this was a bad remodel..."

I spoke my desire out loud to my coach. I got the confirmation from the universe that I was headed in the right direction when my new manifested client asked me to do the service that I had just expressed in private to my coach. I asked for it... and it showed up. It happens just like a snowball picking up speed and along with desires and delivers them in a nice neat package.


This is my Life. Are You a WE or a ME? Do things come easily? Do you give and receive with grace and ease? When I changed from a ME to a WE... My life changed... You can too....

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Confessions of a recovering ME into a We..... An introduction

Join me for a series of blogs really digging into this notion of Me, We, You and I... 

What is it and where do you fall?

Why does it matter?  If we shift our paradigm, what difference will it make in our lives?

ME into a We..... or as I first heard it... Me to We...

The verbiage was introduced to me during my first year in college. For decades there has been a grass roots movement going through the university to shift the paradigm of young students and have them see the global community in a new way regarding the environment, consumption, our footprint, earth, resources, human interaction and  large scale and community. Me shifts to We as in One person being part of the global conscious community with shared resources. This movement has been accelerated with the access due to the Internet, and now the global community is smaller. 

Other Topics that refer to Me and We

• Global - See yourself as part of a larger community.
• Romantic Relationships - love yourself before you can truly love someone else or learn not to be selfish in a relationship so that you can function as a couple.
• Don't be a lone wolf in business - Create a team 
• Relationships from Solo Business to expanding a Customer Base... 

Me to We Conversations cover Macro topics like 

Global Cohesiveness & Micro topics regarding Self & Inner Circle Relationships

But... I haven't found... Anything in between

Me to We... As related to community in general - the Social & Professional Networks that we have the ability to create as We move through life. Not just with people that are like us, but the beauty of creating relationships with people that are not the same...

The topic is vast and yet it spurred on a thought and a discussion with my friend, mastermind partner and inner circle confidant Joie Gharrity of 113 Branding, that turned out to be quite intimate and hit very close to home. It's part of my brand and unique to my point of view. We talk a lot about community: at home and a far. There is much talk about self and self development/improvement. I don't think that there is enough focus on our personal connections with people outside of our intimate circle. Superficial connections don't benefit us personally or professionally. If they do... it is fleeting. Where is the satisfaction and Joy? Many times we end up feeling used, empty or as if time was expended without any reward.

Why does it matter and what is the benefit of creating and developing more meaningful relationships as you move through life?

This series is an exploration of life. What it looks like when we can shift our paradigms and move into a space where we are creating community closer to home. Establishing authentic connections through social, professional and intimate relationships. Making each interaction count and creating relationships that can last a lifetime.

As humans we all want to belong and feel like a part of community. I believe that part of the process of creating MORE meaningful relationships is knowing who you are, seeing and honoring the person in front of you, accurately seeing them for who they are, and learning how to be the hostess/host of your space(TM). The hardest part is recognizing that we are focused on Me. Not in a clinically narcissistic way... But, more in a lone wolf for life kind of way. More tomorrow.....

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Spring Shifts by Design -Reflect, Renew & Redirect

I am all about Designing 

the life you want!

It's Spring and time for me to Reflect, Renew and Redirect! 

Another revelation is that it's time to Paint My Dining Room. 

It has been the center of some amazing meals, love and shared laughter. 

• The annual Manifesting Your Dreams & Goals Workshop has held space in that room. 
• Many hours of manifesting, meditation and life changing conversations have been spoken between those walls!
• Friendships have been forged.
• Business connections have been initiated!
• Power & Productivity enclosed between 4 walls.

Pictures of the walls have appeared in over 2 dozen publications that I am aware of: newsletters, ebooks, video seminars, blogs, posts and more...

The room has served us well and now it is time to renew and restore it back to it's original... if not better state. 

We have all been doing the work and I am proud to say that I have outgrown it's words and intention. All that was manifested has become a reality... in it's own form and I am moving along my path in this

 journey by MY design.

So, farewell to the writing and the walls that have comforted and held space for me.... US... POSITIVE to the core.

As I move forward, I am of service & have a special offer ! 

Let me help you create a beautiful space for you...

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Paint is harder to pick than you think. Hire a designer today to save yourself from paying more than necessary for supplies and labor. Kimberly will come into your home or office, using her extensive background in design and environmental psychology to assist you in help you in picking out the right palette and creating the feel that is just right for You!

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Blog Connect: Best Foot Forward!

Today is about Connecting: Socially, Professionally and Personally.


I have had four people tell me this week that they didn't want to craft their profile, bio, letter of intent or correspondence about themselves strategically. They want to throw it out there and have people take them as they are...

I hear a lot of... they take me as I am, this is the real me, I am not fake, I am not going to pretend...

That has nothing to do with it... Words are powerful and crafting them thoughtfully to Put Your Best Foot Forward is Smart. No one wants to hear you talk negatively. You get a very short amount of time to catch someone's attention. They say 6 seconds before they move on.

A Personal advertisement online and on paper is the Best You. Be You... But, be the charming You.

 1 in 5 people getting married today have met online....

So much of life is how you present yourself.

It's not being fake or presenting a false picture of yourself... It is putting your best foot forward...

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Dating Basics: GPS of Break Ups...

We all hate confrontation, disappointing or the idea hurting someone. But, How do you end a relationship?

• Go silent and just disappear?
• Be wishy washy and confuse the situation so that the other person doesn't know whether they should stay or go?
• Start a fight so that the other person breaks up with you?
• Create chaos to distract the other person and throw them off?
• Be Honest and kind?
• OR Honest and brutal?

What is your break-up style? I hear so many different tactics and they are all just a little too complicated for me...

If you aren't a good fit... You aren't a good fit. Isn't it better just to tell the person that instead of leaving things open ended and up in the air? Really no need to go into a big explanation as to why you are not a good fit. That can just hurt people's feelings. What's the point? Isn't it better to have one short conversation when you know instead of waiting around until things are so uncomfortable that you have no choice but to have, "the talk?"  

So, if I know that they are not meant to be for the long haul, 

I let them know as soon as possible. 

Clearly... Simply... "I think you are a wonderful person, but we just aren't a good fit."

Leaving your reaction open to interpretation will never lead to a clear and decisive end... 

When you say, "it's not you... it's me." That leaves room for people to think that you may get your act together and they could be back in the future. 

If you say nothing encouraging or discouraging, thinking that they will just loose interest and float away... It may cause them to think that you are interested and just need to work a little harder... 

What about the disappearing act? Do you know people in the same circles? Live in the same geographic area? Do you cringe every time you hear your phone ring or worry who you may run into around every corner? 

A little uncomfortable up front saves you from a heck of A LOT of uncomfortable later....

If I know that we are not a match made in heaven... 

I let them know as soon as possible. 

Clearly... Simply... "I think you are a wonderful person, but we just aren't a good fit."

THE END! 

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